Does love has something to do with anxiety?
Love can literally turn your life upside down. But sometimes, life can be severe or generous and give you lots of love, right? The correlation between anxiety and love is similar. Love has a lot to do with anxiety and the aspects of this topic are all significant enough to be discussed.
Can love cause anxiety?
As a matter of fact, love is a widespread cause of anxiety. To be more specific, in my practice, I find two general reasons for a person to appear in chronic anxiety – problems in the love relationship or stress at work. There is even a term that describes the correlation between love problems and anxiety disorders – relationship anxiety. But don’t get it wrong, singles can have relationship anxiety, too. The mental disorders appear when being pressed for not getting married or having kids at, as well as in case of communication problems, long-lasting toxic relationship after which alienation syndrome appears and many more examples. People who are in a relationship, though, usually develop anxiety due to these:
- Severe domination imposed by one of the two sides
- Broken trust and betrayal
- Drastic discrepancy of values, virtues, desires and goals
- No meaningful communication and no possibility to make compromises
Can you love a person with anxiety?
If in the previous example we have a couple where both or any of the sides is anxious due to problems inside the relationship, here we mean love between a mentally healthy person and patient with an anxiety disorder. This is very delicate, but hence, a situation where we find nobility, sincere feelings, devotion, sharing and understanding. Loving a person with anxiety sounds like unconditional love, a love with a cause! It takes a lot to support such a relationship. But’s it’s not impossible at all. Here’s what I usually recommend people who come to me without a personal problem, but with a person with an anxiety problem:
- It’s a must to realise that your beloved person doesn’t feel anxiety because of you. However, with a wrong approach to him/her, you can increase the negative symptoms of the disorder.
- Loving a person with anxiety makes you a kind of his/her sub-therapist. From now on, you should always be ready to hear out the darkest fears, to give warmness during the coldest nights. If you are not prepared for such a mission, you should better get out of this relationship as soon as possible. Otherwise, later you might cause more mental severe damages to your beloved person.
- Never forget that anxious people are usually very delicate, sensitive and kind. They experience things more deeply and profoundly, which is why they got this chronic condition in their health status. You are lucky to be in a relationship with such a fragile but considerable personality.
- Establish a balanced consideration of the anxiety topic in your relationship. At one hand, you shouldn’t define your better half with his/her anxious condition. He or she is more than this. But on the other side, don’t underestimate the diagnosis. Get involved in the treatment by offering help and assistance when you feel able to do so.
Anxiety can generally affect anyone’s love life
One of the worst consequences of living with anxiety is getting incapable of living a normal social life. Regardless of the concrete stage of the mental condition, it will always be an obstacle to be in a healthy relationship. Meanwhile, those who haven’t got any close people by their sides appear in a tougher situation. With time they lose the ability to share and to express their feelings. Anxiety becomes a reason number one for them to be scared of relationships. Anxiety becomes the justification for remaining single, not to have a family and to withdraw into yourself…
Unfortunately, there’s a tendency for people, who have already overcome anxiety, to still keep away from love and relationships. Although feeling much better, motivated to find happiness in life, these people are hesitant to intimacy.
In all cases, anxiety is hell on the love earth and as long as you fight with it, relationships are threatened, but…not impossible! It takes courage and motivation to fight the anxiety back not only if this is your condition, but if it’s your better half’s mental problem.
ABOUT THE AUTHOR
Marina Stoichkova is an experienced astrologer and life coach. She has a Masters degree in Biochemistry and Healthcare management. Her mission is to raise your awareness of the core reasons for your health and life challenges and help you resolve them! Learn more HERE
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